Let’s get cracking. First of all, ask yourself a couple of questions about the overall scenario.
1. What is it that I want to accomplish here?
2. What are acceptable damages or losses? It may well be none!
Now, take stock of the individuals in the scenario, beginning with the opponent.
1. What is he or she like?
2. What are their strong points?
3. What are their failings?
4. Do you know anything about their former story?
5. What would they commonly do?
6. How would they respond to stress or hardship?
7. With all that data, what’s an effective technique you are able to use?
Then, flip it around and ask those questions of yourself.
There are 2 ways you are able to approach this information. First, ask from your own aspect. The other choice would be positioning yourself in your opponent’s shoes and asking those oppugns from there. You’ll be shocked at the insights you are able to get from that, particularly if you’re honest. It may get uncomfortable, however.
Now, imagine that you have a noisy neighbor, Bob. He blasts Britney Spears at three in the morning, and keeps everybody awake. You want to do something about it, but lack the self-assertiveness. Now,
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employing preparation like we just covered to this example may be overkill, but it’s “generic” enough an example for you to conform to your own state of affairs.
Let’s take stock of Bob. He’s loud and dictatorial. He’s 6 foot 3, an ex-bodybuilder with a neck like a angus steer. He does not have a failing, but you do recognize he likes to think of himself as a fair man. You also remember that he detests primitiveness, and he responds by using his size to intimidate. Now thinks about how much you know about his history. Does he follow through with his threats with physical violence, or does he have sufficient good sense not to?
Now, flip it around to you. Your greatest weakness is a deficiency of assertiveness, and stammer when speaking to larger men. But put yourself in his place, and you’ll acquire added insight. Does he see you as a friendly neighbor, a skinny chicken, or does he remember the DVD you bOrrowed and returned all scratched up?
Can you determine how that will bear on your approach? Plainly politeness is the way to go since he probably does still remember the DVD. But if you're too shy, you may decide to write a memo alternatively. Because he’s upset over the DVD, it may be a good idea to calm the waters with a peace-offering.
Now, you may be thinking that this is common sense, but till you make it a formal process, there’s a lot you're likely to overlook.
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